Letter to Wives



Dear Wives,

God created the home in the garden of Eden to fulfill the needs of every family member.  When we follow the principles and dictates of God, there is a harmony in the home that is a type of the harmony that exists in the Godhead.  I would like to take a few minutes to share some things with you concerning, your Biblical role as a wife in a home designed by God.

I know you have heard all of your Christian life sermons preached about a wife being submissive.  I realize in our generation this runs contrary to popular thinking.  However, the Bible was written by God through men. While times and man has changed, God has not.  Submission is not meant to make you unhappy or unfulfilled but to bring you peace, happiness and satisfaction in the home.  Jesus Christ is the pattern for you in this area.

The Word of God informs us that at all times and in all things Jesus was submissive to the will of the Father. He was also submissive to the laws of the land.  He even submitted to the extent of dying for our sins.  As a result of His submission God exalted Him to a position of Lord of Lord’s and King of King’s.  How did Jesus attain that high and lofty position? By submission.

Submission literally means to put yourself under the protection of.  God has appointed you a place of protection, and that is in submission to your husband.  Real submission, involves more than just doing what He says.  It involves doing what He wants and enjoying the opportunity to please Him.  I realize that submission has been abused by some husbands.  Realize that by placing yourself in God’s hands and doing what He tells you, it becomes His responsibility to straighten out your husband.

You may have to rearrange your goals.  To have a submissive spirit means your primary goal is to make your husband the man God wants him to be.  This kind of attitude will make your husband happy, but it will also give you a tremendous fulfillment in knowing you have a big hand in it.  Also, don’t be surprised, when he becomes your primary goal, your personal goals will all be realized.

Your husband represents God’s authority in the home.  He is in the position of authority, so you are submissive to his position, not just to him personally.  When you submit to your husband, you are submitting to the authority he represents, God.  So, if your husband isn’t very nice at times, remember you are submitting to God through him and while God doesn’t change your husband’s position, He certainly can change his disposition.

When you look at the home from God’s point of view, marriage becomes a project and a vocation. It is a tremendous challenge.  It is fulfilling to those who follow God’s direction.

It is my prayer that God will make your home what He desires it to be.  I also pray that you will realize that God must be totally in control as He is in the other areas of your life.  May God bless you richly in your home.