Different Women







MARCH 5TH & 12TH, 1991

Revised 9/2016





As I stand before you to bring this message, I believe God has laid on my heart, I see some women who by the testimony of many church members have lived the Christ-controlled life I am about to talk about.  This lesson to those women will bring into remembrance that God’s Word is Truth and His way is the best way. The title of this message is DIFFERENT WOMEN ARE PECILIAR.



The bible mentions the names of 157 women. The bible mentions a multitude of nameless women i.e. Cain’s wife, Lot’s wife, the daughters of Seth, Enos, Enoch, etc. When you study about a Bible woman, you will learn about her husband, children relatives, and her friends.  A woman is an integral part of humanity, and id humanity is to be purified and Christianized to a far greater extent, it is imperative to have spiritual women at work.


There are many examples of women who were different and peculiar, who left their mark on the pages of history. Here are just a few:

Margaret Thatcher—Prime Minister of Great Britain

Indira Ghandi—Prime Minister of India

Eleanor Roosevelt—American Ambassador

Amelia Airheart—Pioneer of Aviation

Madam Curie—with her husband discovered penicillin

Patricia St John 1919-1993 She was a Christian writer

Esther John 1929-1960 She was a Pakistani Christian nurse and martyr

Queen Elizabeth II—Queen of England

Corrie Ten Boom.—Christian author

Multitude of Christian wives who stand/support their husband as Pastor


I want to talk to you Christian women today about the breathtaking responsibilities God has placed in your hands.  The responsibility of being different and different women are peculiar.  There is a peculiar difference in a woman when she is Christ-controlled. A Christian woman attempting to live her life with her own personality entirely in her own hands can be a monster loosed. But, a Christian woman living her life with her personality in the hands of god can sure be a CREATIVE BLESSING.


The lord chose to compare a family with the Trinity. In doing so, He called   the head of the family after his own name “Father”. He likens our sons and daughters in the family to His own Son the second person in the Trinity. The Holy Spirit is the third person of the heavenly family and the woman is the third person of the earthly family. The wife and mother represent the Holy Spirit especially in the home. Would you like to find out your duties in life?  Find out what the Holy Spirit is doing in the Bible.







Whether it is good or bad, there is one thing that a woman does, a woman determines the spirit and the atmosphere of any place where she is present. A Christian woman is different and peculiar if and only if she is seeking some goals for her life that are positively weird and strange in today’s world. Let’s look at 10 goals that will make DIFFERENT WOMEN PECULIAR.




While the world cries “I want to live”, the Christ controlled woman who is different cries out God’s Word.

Phil 1:21For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. KJV

1 Cor 15:31 I protest by your rejoicing which I have in Christ Jesus our Lord, I die daily. KJV

Rom 8:36 As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. KJV

Dying to self is not common because we do not die easily. But abandonment of self and dying to self brings such exciting living.  Here are some to support this stance.

Josh 1:8 This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. KJV

Rom 12:1-2 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. KJV

1 Cor 9:27 But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway. KJV

Gal 2:20 I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. KJV



2 Cor 4:8-10

8 We are (troubled) on every side, yet not distressed; we are (perplexed,) but not in despair; 9 (Persecuted,) but not forsaken; (cast down,) but not destroyed; 10 Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body. KJV


2 Tim 2:11 It is a faithful saying: For if we be dead with him, we shall also live with him: KJV

The world says “I want to live”, But  your goal is DEATH.

Matt 10:39 He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it. KJV

What a goal the woman has who is different and peculiar



A Christ controlled woman in this area will be different and peculiar because she will SEEK to be a bond servant to the LORD JESUS CHRIST, as she gives up all claim to her own life.  The world say’s you’re, strange, weird, and peculiar.  The worldly woman cries out “I want to be free”. The Christ controlled woman who is DIFFERENT & PECULIAR (bond servant) cries out “The Truth will make you free”, and “I know the TRUTH”.

1 Cor 6:19-20 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. KJV

1 Cor 7:21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather. KJV

John 8:32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. KJV

To be free as the world sees freedom is to be apart from GOD



The Christ controlled woman in this area owns nothing and has no plans to own anything. Perhaps God has given you the use of some things, but everything must go back to HIM to use as He pleases.


Do your things possess you, or do you possess your things?

Are your things tools to be used of GOD?

By the time a woman tries to meet the standards of the world, as far as owning lands, homes, furniture, clothes, appliances, cars, campers, etc., you will have no time to serve GOD.

The world cries “Get ahead, you have worked hard and deserve all you have”. But the Christ controlled woman who is DIFFERENT & PEECULIAR, proclaims:





If God allows the Christ controlled women the use of money and things, She will give them all to GOD to use as HE desires.  Maybe God will leave money and things with you, but you will not care one way or the other once you settle this issue for life.

Luke 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again. KJV



Are you a clearing house for the LORD?

Can He trust you to be a dispatcher of His riches?

Worldly wealth has no permanent security.

Spiritual Wealth has permanent security in this world and the next.



How does a different & peculiar woman have spiritual wealth?

Luke 5:11 And when they had brought their ships to land, they forsook all, and followed him. KJV

2 Cor 8:9 For ye know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that, though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, that ye through his poverty might be rich. KJV

Matt 19:21Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.KJV

Matt 6:21For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. KJV

The world again cries “You can’t take it with you!” THEY ARE WRONG!



God says again:

1 Cor 3:11-15

11 For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ. 12 Now if any man build upon this foundation gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, stubble; 13 Every man’s work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man’s work of what sort it is. 14 If any man’s work abide which he hath built thereupon, he shall receive a reward. 15 If any man’s work shall be burned, he shall suffer loss: but he himself shall be saved; yet so as by fire. KJV

Matt 6:19-21

19 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: 20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: 21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. KJV

Matt 19:21 Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me. KJV

We can lay up treasures for ourselves in heaven



A man of god had said “Though we do not seek suffering neither should we shun it.” A Christ controlled women will give herself over to GOD for service to others, and in doing so you enter into a ministry of suffering.  Most women will HURT & SUFFER just from the knowledge of the problems of OTHERS.

Matt 16:21From that time forth began Jesus to shew unto his disciples, how that he must go unto Jerusalem, and suffer many things of the elders and chief priests and scribes, and be killed, and be raised again the third day. KJV

1 Cor 12:26 And whether one member suffer, all the members suffer with it; or one member be honoured, all the members rejoice with it. KJV

Heb 13:3 Remember them that are in bonds, as bound with them; and them which suffer adversity, as being yourselves also in the body. KJV

1 Peter 2:20-21

20 For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God. 21 For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps: KJV

Rom 8:16-18

16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God: 17 And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.

18 For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. KJV

Phil 3:10 That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death; KJV

2 Tim 2:12-13

12 If we suffer, we shall also reign with him: if we deny him, he also will deny us: 13 If we believe not, yet he abideth faithful: he cannot deny himself. KJV

1 John 2:15-16

15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. KJV

The world cries again “If it feels good do it!” and “I want to feel good!”

This is in direct contrast with the WORD OF GOD. That is why a Christ controlled woman is DIFFERENT AND PECULIAR, IN THE AREA OF SUFFERING, SHUN IT NOT



Definition of discipline is to keep in subjection, to regulate

It take most of us (Men & Women) a long time to even begin to grasp that there are only 2 words questions to ask.

Is it good for me?

Is it good for others?

These 2 questions are really asking “Is it GOD’s plan for my life?”  And if the answer is YES, then take up your cross DAILY and follow HIM.  You can only do this if you are Christ controlled. The world cries “I want my way, to do that which is right in my own eyes, to do my own thing.” This is again opposite to all that is BIBLICAL. A Christ controlled woman is different and peculiar because;

  • She will give up her way
  • She find out that CHRIST’ way brings so much ABOVE and BEYOND than her way
  • HIS way brings her more than she would ever know to want

Luke 9:23 And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. KJV

Matt 10:38 And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. KJV

Matt 16:24-25

24 Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. 25 For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. KJV

Discipline and dedication are sisters



A Christ controlled woman is determined to fight the philosophy of the whole wide world in order to learn SUBMISSION.  Women are told they should go after women power, but the Christ controlled woman will forsake that worldly cry and receive real power, the POWER OF GOD which enables them to be all HE wants them to be. If you want to please GOD in the area of submission, the following scriptures will help you to know GOD’S WILL for you as a woman.



Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. KJV

Same as you submit unto God, NO DIFFERENCE

Col 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. KJV

This is for the purpose of order in the family

Gen 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. KJV

DESIRE—To run after, a longing, to set the heart upon. Can you long for set your heart upon and not submit?

2 Chron 30:8 8 Now be ye not stiffnecked, as your fathers were, but yield yourselves unto the LORD, and enter into his sanctuary, which he hath sanctified for ever: and serve the LORD your God, that the fierceness of his wrath may turn away from you. KJV

1 Peter 5:6 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: KJV

James 4:7Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. KJV

Heb 2:8 Thou hast put all things in subjection under his feet. For in that he put all in subjection under him, he left nothing that is not put under him. But now we see not yet all things put under him. KJV



Gen 3:16 16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. KJV

Eph 5:22-24

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. KJV

Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. KJV

Col 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. KJV

Titus 2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. KJV

1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; KJV

1 Peter 3:5-6

5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. KJV



Rom 13:1-2

13:1 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. 2 Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation. KJV

Rom 13:7 Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour. KJV

Col 3:22 Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but in singleness of heart, fearing God: KJV

1 Tim 2:11-12

11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. KJV

Titus 3:1 Put them in mind to be subject to principalities and powers, to obey magistrates, to be ready to every good work, KJV

Heb 12:9 9 Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? KJV

Heb 13:7 Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation. KJV

Heb 13:17 Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you. KJV

Heb 13:24 Salute all them that have the rule over you, and all the saints. They of Italy salute you. KJV

Gen 16:8-9

8 And he said, Hagar, Sarai’s maid, whence camest thou? and whither wilt thou go? And she said, I flee from the face of my mistress Sarai. 9 And the angel of the LORD said unto her, Return to thy mistress, and submit thyself under her hands. KJV

Do not run away from submission, GOD say’s so



Definition—Female, having qualities regarded as characteristic of a woman, gentleness, weakness, delicacy, and modesty.

The Christ controlled woman at times will struggle over the feminine role as they fight the influence of the world which again cries “I want my equal rights!”  This cry is a tragic joke since Christian women receive far more than equal rights as a feminine and lovely child of God. Jesus Christ tells you quite clearly that you are to lose your lives (Not your femininity) for HIS sake.

A Christ controlled woman will sit at Jesus’ feet first. In luke 10:38-42 Jesus visited Mary and Martha who were sisters.  Mary sat at Jesus’ feet while Martha was busy in the kitchen.  Ladies your female characteristics are strengthened at the feet of Jesus.  That is where you wind more than the equal rights the world has to offer.


Consider these three answers; (1. Jesus Christ, 2. The World, 3. The Women’s Liberation Movement) to the following questions:











Here are the Christ controlled women’s rights:

1) If JESUS is who HE claims to be, then day by day, you have the right to expect that you will be influenced by HIM.

2) You have a right to expect that day by day, as you grow in the knowledge of Him, you will be more able to cope with the various trouble areas of your life.

3) As a Christ controlled woman you have every right to expect to receive every promise He made concerning you according to His Will.

The Women’s Liberation Movement cries out “you don’t have to take that!” The Christ controlled woman who is different and peculiar, has learned that they can take anything because:





The philosophy of the world tries to make the Christ controlled women to feel stupid for not taking pleasures where and when she can find them. The world again cries “You live only once, go for it!” Have you heard an intelligent young girl or women crying and make this statement?  “How could I have been so stupid?” Women, it is intelligent to believe God’s Word.

Num 32:23 But if ye will not do so, behold, ye have sinned against the LORD: and be sure your sin will find you out. KJV

When you have skeletons in your closet, purity is absent. The saying “If it feels good, do it” does require high wages and often for a lifetime. WHO SHALL SEE YOU, GOD?

Matt 5:8 Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God. KJV

Titus 1:15-16

15 Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled. 16 They profess that they know God; but in works they deny him, being abominable, and disobedient, and unto every good work reprobate. KJV

1 Peter 1:22 Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently: KJV

2 Peter 3:1This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance: KJV

Phil 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. KJV

Phil 2:5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: KJV (Read the Bible)



Can impurity and lead to premature death?

1 Cor 3:16-17

16 Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? 17 If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are. KJV




The world cries out again “Don’t volunteer for anything” “and don’t do anything you can get out of doing” Do you recognize these statements? If they are yours (smile) then you are no different from the ordinary Christian women.  This pitiful, apathetic attitude belongs to the world, not to God’s children.

Work and service are dirty words in today’s society. The Christ controlled women who is different has another peculiar characteristic about her, she knows and applies it to her life that HAPPINESS & SERVICE go together steadily.

1 Cor 15:58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord. KJV

John 13:16-17

16 Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him. 17 If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them. KJV


Why should I be useful?

God judges every man’s work

1 Peter 1:17 And if ye call on the Father, who without respect of persons judgeth according to every man’s work, pass the time of your sojourning here in fear: KJV

God is working with you

Mark 16:20 And they went forth, and preached everywhere, the Lord working with them, and confirming the word with signs following. Amen. KJV

Phil 2:12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. KJV



There are many believers but few disciples. A Christ controlled woman will become a dedicated disciple. HOW?

Commitment to love the Lord——-CROSS BEARING

Commitment to love the brethren—PERFORMANCE

Commitment to holiness————-SEPARATION

Commitment to prayer—————FREQUENCY

Commitment to growth————–STUDY THE BIBLE


Matt 7:24 Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: KJV (FOUNDED ON JESUS CHRIST)

Matt 7:26 And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: KJV (FOUNDED ON SATAN)

 1 Cor 3:11For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ. KJV



I named some women who were different and left their name on the pages of history.  Only God knows if they are Christians. Their accomplishments shall disappear and not be found in the new heaven and new earth.  Here are a few Christ controlled women who appear in the Word of God.

Women at the Cross

Women at the Tomb

Women who cared for Jesus’ body

Woman who washed Jesus’ feet with her tears

Woman who covered Jesus with her perfume

Hannah personifies an ideal Mother (I Samuel chapters 1 & 2)

Elizabeth who was a Pastors wife (Luke 1:5-80)

Phebe who wore the badge of kindness (Romans 16:1-2)

Widow and her pot of oil (2 Kings 4:1-7)

Widow who shared her last morsel (1 Kings 17:8-24; Luke 4:25-26)

Pharaohs’ daughter adopted a baby boy called Moses (Exodus 2:5-10; Acts 7:21)



(Acts 9:36-43) She had her own dress making business.  She was a Christian and a philanthropist. She was the cause for revival.


(Judges, chapters 4 & 5; Hebrews 11:32-34) She was a fearless patriot, wife, warrior, poetess, and prophetess.


(Book of Ruth) A woman who tasted a cup of bitterness, she followed her husband from Bethlehem to Moab. She watched her sons marry heathen women. Losing her husband and sons, she returned home and Ruth followed her.  She later gets married.

Because Naomi was a Christ controlled women, she stayed with her husband when he left God’s Will. She stuck with her children, and was a godly influence on Ruth.  Naomi was a GODLY grandmother who took care of Boaz and Ruth’s child Obed, who was the father of Jesse, who was the father of King David.


She left her people for the love of a Christ controlled women (Naomi) and is considered an ancestress of Jesus Christ.



Are Christ controlled women important to God?

The Bible records the third of seven sayings of Jesus Christ as He hung on the cross at Calvary.

John 19:25-27

25 Now there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother, and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Cleophas, and Mary Magdalene. 26 When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved, he saith unto his mother, Woman, behold thy son! 27 Then saith he to the disciple, Behold thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home. KJV


QUESTION: Who was at the Cross?

Matt 27:55 And many women were there beholding afar off, which followed Jesus from Galilee, ministering unto him: KJV

Mark 15:40 There were also women looking on afar off: among whom was Mary Magdalene, and Mary the mother of James the less and of Joses, and Salome; KJV

Luke 23:49 And all his acquaintance, and the women that followed him from Galilee, stood afar off, beholding these things. KJV

John 19:25 Now there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother, and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Cleophas, and Mary Magdalene. KJV

Different women are peculiar when their personality is CHRIST- CONTROLLED.  Jesus Christ will make the difference in you’re:

Disposition                  Children’s lives

Conscious mind           Understanding of human nature

Subconscious mind      Understanding of God’s nature

Reputation                   Ways of facing life

Work                           ways of facing death


Married life


Unmarried life


Spiritual life



Sisters in Christ, life is going on for you in an atmosphere of freedom which you cannot begin to comprehend. The deep responsibility of being a woman is brought sharply into focus where life is concerned. Did Jesus have a statement about eternal life to Martha, a woman? Yes He did.

After all, HE, above anyone else in the world knew the tremendous power of a woman’s life to mark other lives so Jesus said to her, “I AM the Resurrection and the Life.” (john 11:25)

You women are marking lives, as are all women everywhere in the world. But are you leaving the gentle, creative marks of the Lord Jesus Christ?  If you are a Christ controlled woman, you will leave glorious marks on the lives you touch. Not because of your lovely characteristics, but because of His.

In Matthew 6:33 Jesus said “Seek ye first the kingdom of God…”.  In John chapter 6, Jesus teaches many things to His disciples.  These disciples murmured at His sayings.  Jesus said in verse 61 of John 6, “Doth this offend you?” and in verse 66 we see the sad story that “many disciples walked no more with Him”.

Today will you seek first the Kingdom of God and be CHRIST CONTROLLED or will you walk no more with Him and be controlled by the world?